In the age of social media, homemaking is often portrayed as a picture-perfect, princess-like lifestyle—soft, serene, and flawless. From spotless countertops and meticulously arranged florals to the effortless grace of a woman gliding through her tasks, it can seem like a world where nothing ever goes wrong. But we all know reality is far less dreamy. Homemaking is beautiful, but it’s also messy, challenging, and far from perfect.
This post is about embracing the full spectrum of homemaking—not just the picture-perfect moments, but the real, raw, and rewarding journey that doesn't always fit into a whimsical frame. Let’s celebrate the diversity of what homemaking truly looks like, with all its imperfections and joys, because there is beauty in the everyday reality too.
The Online Aesthetic of Homemaking
As seen on social platforms, a homemaker has this perfect kitchen, soft lighting, bouquets of flowers in glass jars, an apron covering a beautiful flowy dress, and updated appliances to match the neutral-colored kitchen. A woman effortlessly managing household chores, with spotless kitchens and perfectly organized pantries.
This "unreal" lifestyle can set unrealistic standards for those who consume this content, leading to feelings of inadequacy or guilt when their own homes or routines don’t match up. The pressure to create this perfect image can cause stress for homemakers, who may feel they are failing if their space isn’t always tidy or Instagram-worthy. Additionally, it can overshadow the true complexity and richness of homemaking, which involves not just aesthetic perfection, but care, effort, and often dealing with daily messes and chaos. While there’s beauty in a clean and organized space, the social media version of homemaking often glosses over the deeper, more meaningful aspects of the lifestyle, such as resilience, adaptability, and love poured into everyday tasks.
Okay, okay... I know what you're thinking....
What if this is my reality? I can't post my lifestyle/reality because someone feels inadequate? I can't control what someone thinks/portrays of me. That's a "them" problem.
And, you are absolutely correct! I'm not saying don't post your reality nor am I saying the social media standards are not your reality.
The Reality of Homemaking
What I am saying is, the majority of people are not living that lifestyle. A normal home has laminate wood floors, white appliances, brown cabinetry, white tile countertops, white tile flooring, diverse colored kitchen gadgets, and no wall decor. Outdated ceiling fans, wallpaper in the bathroom, and outdated washers and dryers. Reality is going to bed with a pile of dishes- not because you want to, but because you have to, never-ending laundry, eating bread from the store, not shopping at Farmers' Markets, using chemicals to clean, not wearing a dress, not wearing an apron, unexpected interruptions, an uncleaned bathroom, children's toys on the floor and pet hair on the couch.
Embracing Your Own Style of Homemaking
Homemaking isn’t a one-size-fits-all lifestyle. While social media may present a polished, idealized version, the truth is, homemaking looks different for everyone. You don't have to adhere to someone else’s definition of what a "perfect" home looks like.
What does homemaking mean to you? For some, it might be the aesthetic home and neutral-colored kitchen. For others, it could be a focus on family. Maybe your homemaking style leans more towards sustainable living, or the pink appliances. If you clean with chemicals, so be it. If you clean with vinegar, so be it. You want to wear a dress while cooking for your family? so be it. You want to wear a moomoo? so be it. Girl, you making your bread homemade? so be it. Girl, you buying your bagels from the store? so be it.
Redefine homemaking in a way that reflects your values, lifestyle, and what brings you and your loved ones joy. Forget about achieving perfection and embrace what works for you, whether it’s in the form of a beautifully styled room or a functional, lived-in space where memories are made.
Take pride in what you create, knowing that homemaking is as much about love, care, and intention as it is about tidiness or aesthetics. As you explore what homemaking means to you, remember that your version is unique—and that makes it beautiful.
Budget-Friendly Tips
Organization- declutter first. Try the one-out-one-in method for bringing more items into the home.
Decor- buy neutral pieces that can be used for every season.
Thrifting- shop at thrift stores for family needs first.
Cooking- cook double to freeze for later. It saves time in the kitchen. I know the perfect recipe for make-ahead breakfast and easy to reheat for busy mornings!
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Meal Planning- try monthly meal planning. Have theme days on the same day every week.
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Celebrating Authenticity in Homemaking
Authenticity in homemaking is far more valuable and meaningful than striving for perfection. While the allure of a perfect, spotless home may be tempting—especially when influenced by social media—it often leads to unnecessary pressure, stress, and dissatisfaction. Embracing authenticity, on the other hand, allows homemakers to focus on what truly matters: creating a home that reflects the values, personalities, and needs of the people living in it.
I love hearing from other women about their unique homemaking journeys. From creative solutions to everyday challenges, these stories not only inspire but also remind us that we’re all navigating this path together. Join our YouTube family! There, I post my homemaking journey and any challenges, tips, and tricks I have to share.
Conclusion
Homemaking can look different for everyone. Your journey is personal, don't define it by aesthetics. Embrace your unique homemaking style and redefine what it means to you.
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